Have you ever wondered why some of your relationships are more of a give-give on your part and a receive-receive from the other person?
Well my friend and I were discussing how sick and tired she was of always going above and beyond to help her friends out while the same acts are not reciprocated for her. I explained to her that she was treating her friends like they were her friends but they were treating her like she was an associate!
According to dictionary .com, the definition of an associate is a person, companion to unite,connect, join into relation as a thought, feeling,memory with another act. A friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
As you can see, the two definitions are quite different with some similarities. The difference between the 2 is that with a friend, you share a deeper connection and there is an attachment whereas an associate share a common thought or feeling of an act but with friends you actually care about the other person’s feelings and thoughts, even take the friend into consideration.
So, my friend, she is my friend because I am concerned and care about her well-being and she is a part of my life whereas if she was just an associate, we would converse only when we had a shared interest to talk about. My friend seems to go above and beyond for other people and wonder why they don’t reciprocate the same acts. I explained that these people look at her as a resource and probably don’t care that she put herself in situations that may alter her day.
I have found that single parents seem to do more than they should because it gives them the opportunity to communicate and kind of fit in a way. But in reality, we need to reserve our energy and strength as much as possible to be ready for the next adventure our kids will throw at us.
How do you differentiate between associates and friends?